We all know that all the money in the world or good looks won’t help you get the girl you want, but you know what will? Confidence. In almost all social interaction, confidence is the key to success. It doesn’t matter if you’re picking up a girl at a bar, sealing the biggest business deal of your life or standing up for yourself; without confidence, you are likely to fail. But what if you’re shy and have low self-esteem, how do you show your bravado and win over the girl you like? In this article, we will teach you how to project confidence to other people with a few basic steps.
Spruce up your appearance
Your looks are very important and by looks, I don’t mean pretty face and fit body, I mean being well-groomed and dressed. You don’t need to use hundreds of beauty products; basic grooming equipment like a comb, shower cream, razor, etc. will be enough. Your every morning should start with showering, shaving, brushing your teeth and combing your hair. These simple things will make a huge difference between looking clean and looking like a homeless person.
The next thing which is very important is dressing up. Take your time every morning to choose what you’ll wear for the rest of the day. Putting on sweatpants and a t-shirt will make you look like a low-life, but tailored men’s suits, now that’s what projects confidence. Almost all successful men put on suits because you never know if you’re going to meet a woman or go on a last minute business lunch. Wearing a suit makes you prepared for any situation and you will never be over or under dressed.
Speak clearly and maintain eye contact
It doesn’t matter if you’re trying to impress a girl or if you’re on a job interview, body language is the best way to project confidence. If you are quiet and constantly looking around people will assume you are shy, uncomfortable and lack confidence.
The first thing you should do to fix this problem is to speak clearly. This doesn’t mean you should interrupt people or be a loudmouth. When speaking, you should lift up your chin and talk in a slightly increased tone so people can hear and understand you.
With this comes the next very important thing, maintaining eye contact. While you’re speaking or listening you should look that person in the eyes. Maintaining eye contact during conversations gives off a feeling of confidence and comfort, but don’t forget to break eye contact during pauses so you don’t come off as too intense.
Set goals that you can accomplish
If you’re shy and lack confidence, the best way to build it is by setting goals for yourself and meeting them. You should look at goals as promises to yourself and if you can’t keep them, how can you be confident about anything else. Confident men always meet the goals they set for them. Always start with small goals that you can absolutely accomplish. For example, if you want to start working out plan your training in advance and finish every part of it. If you are sleeping through whole morning, set your alarm early and wake up.
By accomplishing these small goals, your confidence will start to increase. And with more confidence, you will be able to achieve even greater goals. Just remember that you need to start small.
Confidence comes naturally for some people and others struggle with it their whole life. If you belong in the second group don’t worry, as you can see from this article, there are plenty of ways to improve your self-esteem. So, before your next date or business meeting, remember these tips and you will have no trouble projecting confidence.